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Spread love, not hate

With everything going on in the world today and all the turmoil that is 2020, I wanted to take a moment to spread some love and positivity.  It is often very easy for us to hop on the complain train and pile on the negativity.  However, your mindset can drastically affect your perception of reality.  Are you someone who creates problems or solves them?  In the #CJJblog this week, I want to give you some tips on how you can overlook the chaos and be part of the solution.  Enjoy.

  • Starts with you. Before you even think about interacting or debating with others on a certain topic, make sure you are in the right headspace.  Who are you?  What is your personal mission statement?  What do you stand for?
  • Treatment of others starts and ends with respect.  Do you respect others’ opinions?  It may seem silly, but start with implementing basic manners – “Please” and “Thank you” – and build from there.
  • Serve others. After showing others respect, you can start to seek to be of service to them.  As the late John Wooden once said “You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.”
  • Disagree properly. It’s perfectly acceptable to argue or disagree with others, but how are you doing it?  Do you attack the issue, or the person?  Being a person of sound reasoning can go a long way.
  • Support a cause. Find something bigger than yourself and dedicate your time, talent, and treasure to it.  I challenge you to find a cause today and find some small way to support it.
  • Set goals. For me, I have a personal goal that I reach out to at least one family member or friend every week to check in and see how they are doing.  No agenda or specific reason for calling, just to see if I can help them in any way.
  • Kindness basics. Being a kind person comes with many benefits.  Do you hold the door for others?  Are you able to smile and say “hello” in a friendly way?
  • Win graciously. And lose with class.  Win or lose, show your opponent respect and accept the outcome of the situation.  Move on and get better for the next time.

Did You Know?  Coach Jim Johnson wanted to share this video with you of the 2008 humble concession speech from John McCain that is going viral online.  Please take a few minutes to watch today and recognize what humility and respect look like.

Life Tip #2: Tell people you care about them, especially family members.  Tell them you love and appreciate them as often as you can.

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